Can Two Mediums Both Be Right?

One of the questions I've been sitting with a lot recently is this.

Can two mediums completely disagree...

...and both be right?

I think they can.

In fact, I'd go one step further.

I think if every medium worked in exactly the same way, I'd be far more worried.

Because mediumship isn't manufactured.

It's personal.

It's human.

And every single one of us brings something different to the conversation.

Why do mediums teach different methods?

This confuses a lot of students.

You take one course and learn one way of working.

Then you take another course and the teacher tells you something completely different.

One says blend deeply.

Another says don't.

One says Spirit are completely in control.

Another says intention matters more.

One encourages lots of evidence.

Another focuses on the emotional connection.

Who's right?

Maybe they both are.

Is there only one correct way to work with Spirit?

I don't believe so.

If there's one thing mediumship has taught me, it's that certainty is usually followed by a new lesson.

Every time I think I've understood something...

Spirit gently turn it upside down.

Not to embarrass me.

To help me grow.

One of my favourite sayings is from Game of Thrones.

"You know nothing, Jon Snow."

That's genuinely how my relationship with Spirit often feels.

Just when I think I've grasped a concept, another layer unfolds.

Another perspective appears.

Another question emerges.

The more I learn...

The more I realise how much there is still to discover.

Your mediumship is shaped by you

This is probably the biggest shift in my thinking over the years.

When I first started, I assumed mediumship was entirely about Spirit.

Spirit were in control.

Spirit decided everything.

Spirit did all the work.

Now?

I see it rather differently.

Of course Spirit are an essential part of mediumship.

But so are you.

Your personality.

Your life experiences.

Your values.

Your imagination.

Your language.

Your intention.

Your understanding of the world.

All of those things shape how your mediumship unfolds.

Two mediums can receive the same impression and describe it completely differently.

Neither has to be wrong.

They're simply translating the experience through their own unique perspective.

Why copying another medium doesn't work

I understand why we try.

When we're developing, we desperately want certainty.

We look at experienced mediums and think,

"If I do exactly what they do, perhaps I'll become a better medium."

But here's the problem.

You can learn techniques.

You can learn structure.

You can learn discipline.

What you can't do is borrow someone else's relationship with Spirit.

That relationship has to grow between you and them.

It's a bit like friendship.

You can't copy somebody else's friendship and expect it to feel genuine.

You have to build your own.

What if your teacher disagrees with another teacher?

Wonderful.

Honestly.

Wonderful.

Not because disagreement is always comfortable.

Because it gives you an opportunity to think.

One of the greatest gifts a teacher can offer isn't certainty.

It's curiosity.

When two respected teachers hold different opinions, don't rush to decide who's right.

Instead, ask yourself,

"Why do they each see it this way?"

"What experiences have shaped their perspective?"

"What resonates with me?"

That's where real learning begins.

I love being proved wrong

People sometimes find this surprising.

But one of my favourite things is discovering I've misunderstood something.

Not because I enjoy being wrong.

Because it means I've learnt something new.

Imagine believing you'd reached the end of your spiritual journey.

How disappointing would that be?

I don't want all the answers.

I want to keep unfolding.

To keep questioning.

To keep growing.

Changing your mind isn't weakness.

It's often evidence that you've expanded.

Spirit rarely deal in absolutes

One thing I've noticed after years of working with Spirit is that they're remarkably gentle with certainty.

They don't spend much time telling me I'm right.

In fact, it's usually the opposite.

Every answer seems to lead to another question.

Every understanding opens another door.

It's wonderfully humbling.

And I think that's exactly how it should be.

What if we stopped arguing about who's right?

Imagine how different our spiritual community would feel.

Instead of saying,

"That's wrong."

We asked,

"Tell me more."

Instead of defending our position...

We became curious about somebody else's.

That doesn't mean accepting every idea without question.

Discernment matters.

Critical thinking matters.

Healthy debate matters.

But so does respect.

There is a world of difference between saying,

"I see it differently."

and saying,

"You're wrong."

Your mediumship should sound like you

I sometimes meet students who are terrified they're doing mediumship incorrectly because they don't work like their favourite teacher.

My response is always the same.

Good.

Why would Spirit want another copy of somebody who already exists?

The world doesn't need another version of your teacher.

It needs you.

Your experiences.

Your humour.

Your compassion.

Your way of describing the Spirit world.

Your voice.

That's where your power lies.

Not in becoming someone else.

But in becoming more fully yourself.

Perhaps we're all describing the same mountain

I often imagine mediumship like a mountain.

We're all climbing it from different directions.

The view from the north side looks different from the view in the south.

The paths aren't identical.

The scenery changes.

The challenges change.

If we stood at the summit together, perhaps we'd realise we'd been describing the same mountain all along.

Just from different places.

So... can two mediums both be right?

I think they can.

Not because every idea is automatically true.

But because mediumship is a living, unfolding relationship between Spirit and the individual.

Different people will notice different things.

Value different things.

Express different things.

And perhaps that's exactly how it was always meant to be.

Because the real magic of mediumship has never been creating identical mediums.

It's been revealing the extraordinary uniqueness of ordinary people who are willing to listen.

Listen to the full podcast episode

This article is inspired by an episode of the Mediumship Matters podcast, where I explore why differing opinions in mediumship don't have to create division, and why I believe authenticity matters far more than uniformity.

If you'd rather listen than read, you'll find the full episode wherever you get your podcasts.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can two mediums both be right?

I believe they can. Mediumship isn't a mechanical process where every medium experiences Spirit in exactly the same way. Each medium brings their own personality, life experiences, language and understanding to the connection. While the core purpose of evidential mediumship remains the same, different approaches can all be valid.

Why do different mediumship teachers teach different methods?

Every teacher develops their understanding through their own experiences with Spirit. Some focus on blending, others on evidence, and others on the emotional connection. Different methods don't automatically mean one teacher is right and another is wrong. Often they're simply describing what has worked for them.

Is there only one correct way to work with Spirit?

In my opinion, no. There are ethical principles that I believe are important, but within those principles there is room for individuality. Your relationship with Spirit is unique, and your mediumship should develop in a way that feels authentic rather than becoming a copy of someone else's.

Why doesn't my mediumship look like my teacher's?

Because it isn't meant to. Your personality, experiences, beliefs and way of communicating all influence how you work with Spirit. Learning from experienced teachers is valuable, but the goal isn't to become another version of them. It's to discover your own authentic relationship with Spirit.

How do I choose between teachers who disagree?

Listen to different perspectives with an open mind and healthy discernment. Rather than asking, "Who's right?" try asking, "What can I learn from each of these viewpoints?" You don't have to adopt every teaching you hear. Keep what resonates, question what doesn't and allow your own experience to guide you.

Is changing your opinion a sign that you were wrong?

Not necessarily. I think changing your mind is often a sign of growth. As we gain more experience, our understanding naturally evolves. Spiritual development isn't about reaching a point where you know everything; it's about remaining curious enough to keep learning.

Should I question what my teacher tells me?

Respectfully, yes. A good teacher should encourage curiosity rather than blind agreement. Asking thoughtful questions and reflecting on your own experiences helps you build confidence in your own mediumship instead of becoming dependent on someone else's interpretation.

Why is authenticity so important in mediumship?

Your authenticity is one of your greatest strengths. Spirit don't need dozens of identical mediums—they need people who communicate in a way that is natural and true to who they are. When you stop trying to imitate others, your mediumship often becomes more confident, consistent and meaningful.

Can respectful disagreement help spiritual development?

Absolutely. Some of the greatest learning happens when we're exposed to different ideas. Respectful discussion encourages us to think more deeply, challenge our assumptions and remain open to new possibilities. In my experience, curiosity creates far more growth than certainty ever does.