The Myth of the 'Gifted' Medium: Why Everyone Can Connect to Spirit

Hannah Macintyre
May 2
3 min read

Let’s bust a myth wide open, shall we? There’s this persistent idea floating around in the spiritual world that being a medium is some rare, mystical “gift” bestowed upon a chosen few. You know, like Spirit holds some kind of cosmic talent show, hands out golden tickets, and says, “Congrats! You’re special. The rest of you? Good luck with that.”

Yeah, no. That’s not how it works.

The Truth: Mediumship Is Not an Exclusive Club

Here’s the deal—everyone, and I mean everyone, can connect to Spirit. It’s not a gift you either have or don’t. It’s more like a muscle. Some people are naturally athletic (good for them), but that doesn’t mean the rest of us can’t hit the gym, train, and become strong in our own right. Mediumship is exactly the same. The more you practice, the stronger your connection becomes.

So, Where Did This 'Gifted' Myth Come From?

Ah, the old gatekeeping trick. Historically, calling mediumship a “gift” helped create an air of mystery and authority. It made mediums seem like magical unicorns, whispering secret messages from beyond the veil that only they could hear. Great marketing, terrible for your spiritual growth.

This idea also conveniently keeps people coming back for readings because if you believe you can’t do it yourself, you’ll always rely on someone else to connect for you. But spoiler alert: you don’t need anyone else to talk to Spirit. They’re literally right there, waiting for you to notice.

The Real 'Gift': Your Willingness to Trust

If there is a gift involved, it’s not about seeing dead people like it’s a paranormal party trick. The real “gift” is your willingness to trust what you receive. Trusting that the random thought, the subtle feeling, or the image that pops into your mind isn’t just your imagination running wild.

And guess what? Trust doesn’t magically appear overnight. It grows through practice, patience, and yes, getting it wrong sometimes. That’s not failure; that’s learning.

But What About People Who Seem Naturally Gifted?

Sure, some people seem to have an easier time connecting, just like some people are born able to run fast without training (annoying, isn’t it?). But that doesn’t make them better; it just means their starting point is different. Natural ability can give you a head start, but dedication and practice always win the race.

In fact, the people who struggle at first often become the best mediums because they’ve had to work through their doubts, refine their skills, and develop deep self-awareness. That journey builds a strong, resilient connection to Spirit.

Signs You’re Already Connecting to Spirit (Without Realising It)

Random Thoughts That Make No Sense… Until They Do: Ever think of someone out of the blue, only to have them call you? That’s not coincidence; that’s connection.
Gut Feelings You Can’t Explain: You know that instinct that tells you to avoid a situation, and later you find out why? Yep, that’s Spirit nudging you.
Dreams That Feel More Real Than Reality: If you’ve ever woken up feeling like you actually spent time with a loved one who has passed, guess what? You probably did.
Unexplained Sensations: Chills, tingles, or feeling like someone’s standing behind you when no one is there. Not spooky, just Spirit saying, “Hey, notice me!”

How to Strengthen Your Connection

Stop Overthinking: Spirit isn’t trying to trick you. The more you relax and stop second-guessing, the clearer the connection becomes.
Practice Makes Progress: Meditation, journaling, and practicing with others all help. You don’t have to be perfect; you just have to show up.
Ask for Signs: Spirit loves a direct invite. Ask for a sign and stay open to how it might show up.
Trust the Process: Doubt is normal. Don’t let it stop you. Acknowledge it, then keep going.

Final Thoughts: You’re Already Connected

Mediumship isn’t about being “gifted.” It’s about recognising the connection that’s already there. You don’t need special powers, a crystal ball, or a dramatic backstory of seeing ghosts since childhood. You just need curiosity, patience, and a little bit of trust.

So, the next time someone tells you they’re a “gifted” medium, smile politely and remember: the real gift isn’t theirs to keep. It’s within all of us, including you.