How to Connect with Your Spirit Guides (Without Overcomplicating It!)

Ah, spirit guides. The mystical, magical, all-knowing beings who are apparently always with us—guiding, nudging, and occasionally laughing at us when we ignore their advice for the 100th time. So, how do you actually connect with them? And more importantly, how do you do it without turning it into some overcomplicated, ritual-heavy performance that makes you feel like you need a PhD in mysticism just to get started?

Let’s break it down. Simply. Easily. And with no unnecessary faff.

Step 1: Drop the Pressure

One of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to connect with their spirit guides is treating it like a GCSE exam. There’s no pass or fail here. You don’t need to see them. You don’t need a name, a visual, or some dramatic encounter where they appear in a cloud of mystical fog. Spirit communication is subtle—it’s about sensing, feeling, and trusting those little nudges you get throughout your day.

So, take a deep breath. Relax. Your guides are already with you. They don’t need you to “summon” them like a supernatural pizza delivery service.

Step 2: Sit and Be With Them (Without Expecting a Full-On Conversation)

If you want to connect with your guides, the best thing you can do is just spend time in their presence. No, this doesn’t mean staring at a candle for three hours until your third eye throbs. It means simply sitting quietly, closing your eyes, and inviting them in. No agenda, no expectations—just being with them.

They work in whispers, not shouts. Instead of expecting a full-blown conversation, pay attention to the feelings that come up. A sense of warmth? A lightness in your chest? A sudden feeling of reassurance? That’s them.

Step 3: Ask Simple Questions and Trust the First Thing That Comes

Humans love to overcomplicate things, but this doesn’t need to be hard. If you want guidance, ask a simple question like, “What do I need to know today?” and then trust the very first thing that pops into your head.

The key is not to second-guess yourself. Don’t sit there and analyse whether it’s “really” them or if you’re making it up. (Spoiler: You’ll talk yourself out of it every time if you do.) Guides communicate through inspiration, so if something feels like a response, go with it.

Step 4: Watch for Signs (But Don’t Demand Them Like a Diva)

Your guides love to drop little signs and synchronicities into your day—maybe you keep seeing the same number, hearing a certain song, or getting a weirdly specific phrase from different people. These aren’t coincidences.

But—and this is a big but—don’t demand a specific sign in a specific way. No, they probably won’t make a pigeon land on your head as proof they’re listening (though that would be funny). Let them communicate in their own way, and stay open to how they choose to do it.

Step 5: Just Keep Going

Building a connection with your spirit guides is like building a muscle—you’ve got to use it. The more you sit with them, talk to them, and acknowledge the subtle ways they guide you, the stronger your bond becomes. It’s not about perfection, and it’s certainly not about “doing it right.” It’s about consistency, trust, and being open.

Final Thoughts (And a Friendly Nudge)

Spirit guides aren’t looking for a grand ritual. They don’t care if you’re sitting cross-legged in a crystal-filled meditation room or having a chat with them while doing the washing up. They just want to connect. So, drop the overthinking, stop worrying about whether you’re “getting it right,” and just be with them.

Want to hear more about working with your spirit guides? Tune in to my podcast Mediumship Matters, where I dive into this (and other spiritual topics) with my usual mix of honesty, humour, and practical advice. No fluff, no nonsense—just real talk about real spirit connections. Listen now on your favourite podcast platform!