Healing Boundaries: When Helping Others Drains Your Energy
- Hannah Macintyre
- Mar 28
- 2 min read
Hello, beautiful souls! It’s Hannah Macintyre here, ready to chat about something that hits close to home for many of us in the spiritual and healing communities: healing boundaries and what to do when helping others drains your energy.
The Empath’s Dilemma
If you’re an empath, a healer, or just someone with a big heart, you know the drill: someone unloads their emotional baggage onto you, and suddenly you’re the proud owner of feelings that aren’t even yours. It’s like going to a car boot sale and accidentally buying grief, anxiety, and a side of existential dread. Not exactly what you signed up for, right?
Why Does Helping Others Drain Us?
Lack of Boundaries: Yep, the B-word. Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re energetic filters. Without them, you’re like a sponge soaking up everyone’s emotional spills.
The Fixer Mentality: We all love a good superhero moment, but trying to fix everyone’s problems is like playing emotional whack-a-mole. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t work.
Unconscious Energy Exchange: Sometimes, people don’t even realize they’re draining you. They’re just unknowingly plugging into your energy like you’re a human power bank.
Signs You’re Drained (Hint: It’s Not Just Being Tired)
You feel exhausted after conversations.
You’re irritable for no reason.
You experience physical symptoms like headaches or tension.
You start avoiding people (even the ones you love).
How to Set Healthy Healing Boundaries
Recognise the Pattern: Awareness is the first step. Notice who drains you and when it happens.
The Power of “No”: It’s a complete sentence. No apologies required.
Visualise Your Energy Field: Picture a bubble of light around you. Only love and positivity get in; everything else bounces off.
Ground Yourself: Nature is the ultimate energy reset. Walk barefoot on the grass, hug a tree (yes, really), or just sit outside.
Energy Check-Ins: After interactions, ask, “How do I feel?” If the answer is “like I’ve been hit by an emotional bus,” it’s time to recalibrate.
It’s Okay to Walk Away
Sometimes, the healthiest thing you can do is step back. You are not responsible for everyone’s healing. Read that again. Your job is to hold space, not to carry the load.
Final Thoughts: Protect Your Magic
Helping others is beautiful, but not at the cost of your well-being. Your energy is sacred. Protect it, cherish it, and remember: boundaries aren’t barriers—they’re self-love in action.
So next time you feel drained, don’t reach for another coffee. Check your boundaries. Your soul will thank you.
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