Connecting With Loved Ones in Spirit, Grief, and the Truth About Readings

Mediumship Matters Podcast — Season 1, Episode 4

One of the most common questions people ask when they’re grieving is whether they can feel their loved ones without going through a medium.

In this episode of Mediumship Matters, I respond to a listener question about loss, connection, and the ache of missing someone who has passed. We explore what connection with loved ones in spirit actually feels like, why it’s often subtle, and why not feeling or hearing them clearly doesn’t mean they aren’t close.

This episode also unpacks different types of readings — psychic, card, and evidential mediumship — and explains why spiritual work should empower you rather than replace your own agency.

Grief Still Hurts, Even When You Believe in Spirit

One of the most important things I share in this episode is this:

Believing that loved ones live on does not cancel out grief.

You can know your loved ones are close and still ache for their physical presence. You can still want to hug them, laugh with them, hear their voice, and share everyday moments. Grief isn’t a failure of faith or understanding — it’s part of being human.

This episode acknowledges that truth without minimising it.

Why Feeling Loved Ones Is Often Subtle

Many people expect that if loved ones are close, they should feel them strongly all the time.

In reality, spirit communication is often subtle by design. If we felt spirit as vividly as physical presence, it would interfere with our human experience. Loved ones don’t disappear — they stay close — but they allow us space to live, grow, and function.

Even as a medium, I question my own experiences at times. That uncertainty is part of being human, not a sign that nothing is happening.

Building Connection Is Like Building a Muscle

In this episode, I compare spiritual connection to running — something you build gradually through consistency rather than force.

Connection with spirit:

• develops over time

• involves resistance and self-doubt

• requires patience and regular practice

• can’t be rushed or demanded

Sitting quietly with intention, without expectation, is one of the simplest and most powerful ways to begin building that connection.

Why You Can’t Replace a Medium — and Why That’s Okay

While everyone can build a relationship with spirit, it’s important to understand that evidential messages from loved ones are very difficult to receive for ourselves.

This is why mediums exist — not because you’re incapable, but because emotional closeness makes evidence harder to interpret clearly. Building awareness can deepen comfort and connection, but it doesn’t replace professional mediumship when evidence is needed.

Both have value, and neither cancels the other out.

Understanding Different Types of Readings

This episode also explains the difference between common types of readings:

• Psychic readings focus on your energy and potential

• Card readings offer guidance and perspective through spirit or intuition

• Mediumship readings focus on evidential connection with loved ones in spirit

A key theme here is empowerment. Ethical spiritual work does not remove free will, predict fixed futures, or promise outcomes without effort. Spirit guides and loved ones support growth — they don’t make decisions for you.

About This Episode

In this episode of Mediumship Matters, I explore:

• Grief and missing loved ones in spirit

• Why not feeling them strongly is normal

• How connection with spirit develops over time

• Sitting with spirit as a gentle practice

• Why evidence is hard to receive for yourself

• The difference between psychic, card, and mediumship readings

• Why ethical readings empower rather than disempower

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If You’re Grieving or Feeling Uncertain

If you’re navigating loss or questioning your connection with spirit, you may find reassurance in the Start Here: New to Mediumship guide or the post Is Mediumship Real, or Am I Imagining This?

You’re also welcome to explore Spirit Social, where conversations about grief, connection, and development are held gently and without pressure, or The Gateway, my online school for structured, grounded spiritual development.