Why You’re Outgrowing Friends After a Spiritual Awakening
- Hannah Macintyre
- Jul 17
- 2 min read
So, you’ve had a spiritual awakening. Congratulations! Your soul is expanding, your energy is shifting, and… your social circle suddenly feels like a pair of jeans from 2008: tight, uncomfortable, and not quite the right fit anymore. If you’re wondering why you’re outgrowing friends after a spiritual awakening, you’re not alone. Let’s unpack this cosmic conundrum with a sprinkle of humour (because spiritual growth doesn’t have to be that serious).
1. Your Energy Has Leveled Up (And Not Everyone Is Coming With You)
When you go through a spiritual awakening, your frequency shifts. You’re vibing higher, more in tune with authenticity, growth, and self-awareness. But guess what? Not everyone in your life signed up for that same energetic upgrade.
Some friends might feel:
Draining: Like a battery-sucking app you forgot to close.
Out of sync: Conversations that once flowed now feel forced.
Stuck in old patterns: Gossip, negativity, or drama that no longer resonates.
It’s not that they’re bad people—it’s just that you’re dancing to a new beat, and they’re still listening to the old playlist.
2. You Crave Depth Over Surface-Level Small Talk
Remember when talking about the weather, reality TV, or the latest office drama felt fulfilling? Yeah, me neither. After a spiritual awakening, small talk feels like eating plain toast when you know avocado exists.
You want:
Soulful conversations
Authentic connections
People who get your random musings about the universe
3. Boundaries, Baby!
Spiritual growth often comes with a shiny new skill: boundaries. You start recognising relationships that were one-sided, toxic, or built on old versions of yourself. And as you set those boundaries, some friends might not react well. Spoiler: That’s okay.
4. The Comfort Zone Clash
Growth is uncomfortable. And when you start shifting, it can unintentionally shine a light on where others are choosing not to grow. Some people might:
Feel threatened by your changes
Dismiss your experiences (“Oh, you’re into that woo-woo stuff now?”)
Try to pull you back into old habits
But your journey isn’t about making others comfortable. It’s about honouring your truth.
5. You’re Rediscovering Yourself
As you evolve, you’re essentially meeting you all over again. What you enjoy, value, and believe shifts. Sometimes, friendships rooted in your “old self” don’t align with who you’re becoming. And that’s not a failure—it’s growth.
How to Navigate This Without Feeling Like a Spiritual Snob:
Honour the History: Appreciate the role those friendships played in your life.
Communicate Honestly: If it feels right, have heartfelt conversations about your changes.
Allow Space: Not all friendships need to end. Some just need to evolve.
Find Your Soul Tribe: Seek connections that align with your current frequency.
Final Thoughts:
Outgrowing friends after a spiritual awakening isn’t about being “better than” anyone. It’s about alignment, authenticity, and honouring your soul’s growth. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime—and sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is let go.




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