The Power of ‘No’ in Mediumship: Why Rejections Are Essential for Growth

There’s a pervasive myth in the mediumship world that the best mediums never get things wrong. That the true greats just sit back, blend with spirit, and deliver flawless readings with zero hiccups.

Rubbish.

The reality is, every medium—yes, even the ones you idolize—gets nos. The difference is, they’ve learned how to handle them, work through them, and not let them destroy their confidence.

1. Mediumship is Interpretation, Not Dictation

Spirit doesn’t hand us a script. There’s no celestial teleprompter feeding us a perfect, word-for-word account of a person’s life. Instead, we’re receiving energy, emotions, images, sounds, sensations, and we have to translate that into something meaningful.

And, well… sometimes we get it wrong.

Think of it like playing charades with spirit. They show you a birthday cake—your brain thinks, birthday!—but your sitter is sitting there like, Nope, never had a birthday in my life. (Of course, they have, but they’re fixated on something else).

It’s not that spirit is wrong, or that you’re wrong. It’s just interpretation.

2. The Sitter Factor: When ‘No’ Isn’t Actually a ‘No’

Let’s be honest—sitters don’t always know their own lives as well as they think they do.

Sometimes they’ve forgotten things. Sometimes they’re too emotional to process what you’re saying in the moment. And sometimes, they’re just so fixated on a specific piece of evidence (Grandad mention the socks!) that they reject anything else you bring through.

A classic example:

• Medium: Your nan is showing me a watch—does this mean anything to you?

• Sitter: No, she never wore a watch.

• (Two hours later, sitter calls back: Oh my God, I just remembered—Nan left me a watch in her will!)

It happens. A lot.

This is why pushing through a no, rather than shutting down, is vital. Instead of panicking, take a breath and work with spirit to find another way in.

The Emotional Toll of ‘No’ (and Why You Need to Toughen Up)

The first time you get a no, it feels like being publicly humiliated in front of the entire universe. Your brain spirals into, See? You can’t do this. Spirit never wanted you on the team. Just quit now.

But here’s the cold, hard truth:

• You can’t grow as a medium without getting nos.

• The only way nos stop hurting is by getting enough of them.

• If you expect mediumship to be perfect, you’re setting yourself up for failure.

When I first started, every no felt like a physical wound. My heart would race, my stomach would drop, and I’d spend days obsessing over it. But after hundreds of readings and thousands of nos, I finally realized—nos are just part of the process.

The best way to get over the fear of no? Get more of them. The more readings you do, the more you’ll realize that a no doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re learning.

Turning ‘No’ Into a Better Mediumship Experience

So what do you do when a sitter says no? How do you work through it instead of spiralling?

1. Stay Neutral—Don’t Flinch

Confidence is everything. If you look panicked every time someone says no, it creates doubt—for you and your sitter. Instead, take a breath and respond calmly:

❌ Don’t say: Oh no, I’ve got that wrong. I must be making this up.✅ Do say: Okay, let’s explore this further—I might be interpreting it differently.

2. Ask Spirit for Clarity

Instead of immediately moving on, double-check with spirit. You can say something internally like:

"Okay, can you give me another way to describe this? Can you show me something else that connects?"

3. Use It as an Opportunity to Strengthen Your Connection

Each no teaches you how your mediumship works, how spirit communicates with you, and how you can improve your delivery. It’s feedback, not failure.

Final Thoughts: Why ‘No’ Is a Sign You’re Doing Real Mediumship

If you never get nos, you’re either:

1. Deluding yourself. (Harsh but true—every medium gets them.)

2. Working psychically, not spiritually. (If everything is a hit, you’re probably reading the sitter, not spirit.)

3. Only delivering what you think the sitter wants to hear.

The bottom line? Nos are inevitable. But when you learn to work through them, they become the most valuable tool for growth.

So the next time a sitter says no, don’t crumble. Take a breath, dig deeper, refine your evidence, and trust that every ‘no’ is getting you closer to the medium you’re meant to be.

Because in mediumship, the only real failure is giving up.