Healing, Empathy, Boundaries, and Why You Can’t Fix Everyone
- Hannah Macintyre
- Feb 12
- 3 min read
Mediumship Matters Podcast — Season 1, Episode 11
One of the hardest lessons on the spiritual path is realising that feeling someone’s pain doesn’t mean it’s yours to heal.
In this episode of Mediumship Matters, I explore empathy, healing, boundaries, and responsibility — and why trying to fix others can quietly drain us, disempower them, and block genuine growth. We also look at meditation, connection with spirit, and why stillness doesn’t always look the way people expect it to.
This episode is especially relevant if you’re empathic, emotionally exhausted, or struggling to understand where compassion ends and self-harm begins.
Empathy Does Not Equal Responsibility
Many empathic people believe that feeling someone else’s struggle means they are meant to intervene.
In this episode, I share how spirit helped me understand that sensing someone’s pain doesn’t make it your job to remove it. Often, difficulty is part of another person’s growth — and stepping in too quickly can actually take away their opportunity to learn, choose, and develop resilience.
True compassion supports growth. It doesn’t override it.
Why “Healing Everyone” Can Be Ego in Disguise
A powerful theme in this episode is how easily healing can become about the healer rather than the person in need.
Offering unsolicited healing, sending energy without consent, or assuming superiority because you have tools others don’t often comes from a well-intentioned but ego-led place. Real healing work respects autonomy, timing, and readiness.
If healing hasn’t been asked for, it isn’t yours to give.
The Difference Between Support and Enabling
One of the clearest insights shared in this episode is the difference between being supportive and being enabling.
When we absorb other people’s emotional weight and give away our energy, we may temporarily make them feel better — but we also keep them stuck. Empowerment often looks like encouragement, not rescue.
Being a cheerleader allows others to find their own strength.
Energy Boundaries and Why They Matter
In this episode, I explain how poor energetic boundaries can become a form of self-harm.
Taking on other people’s emotional “load” leaves us depleted, resentful, and disconnected from our own lives. Learning to hold your energy — rather than giving it away automatically — protects both you and the people you care about.
Boundaries aren’t selfish. They’re necessary.
Meditation Isn’t the Only Way to Connect
The second half of this episode explores meditation and spiritual connection.
While meditation can be beneficial, it’s not the only way — or even the best way — for everyone. Connection with spirit often happens when the body is gently occupied and the mind is allowed to drift: walking, running, ironing, cooking, bathing, or sitting quietly with a cup of tea.
Spirit doesn’t require silence. It requires presence.
Stillness Comes From Integration, Not Escape
A key point in this episode is that mental noise doesn’t disappear by force.
Trying to push thoughts away often makes them louder. Stillness comes from dealing with what’s asking for attention — not bypassing it. The more we integrate our own emotional work, the clearer space we create for spirit communication.
You can’t skip the “self” part of spiritual development.
About This Episode
In this episode of Mediumship Matters, I explore:
Empathy and emotional responsibility
Why you can’t fix other people
Healing, consent, and ego
Support vs enabling
Energetic boundaries and self-protection
Meditation myths and alternatives
How spirit communicates in everyday life
🎧 Listen to the episode here:
If You’re Feeling Emotionally Drained
If this episode resonates, you may also find clarity in Why Boundaries Matter in Spiritual Work, Can Spiritual Development Be Learned Safely?, or the Start Here: New to Mediumship guide.
You’re also welcome to explore The Gateway, my online school for grounded spiritual development, or Spirit Social, where empathic people can learn to share space without burning out.
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