The Ethics of Mediumship: When NOT to Give a Message

Mediumship is an incredible gift, a bridge between the physical world and the spirit realm. But with great power comes great responsibility (yes, I just quoted Spider-Man, and no, I’m not sorry). As much as mediums love delivering heartfelt messages from loved ones in spirit, there are times when the most ethical thing you can do is… say nothing.

1. When It’s Unsolicited (a.k.a. The Spiritual Drive-By)

Picture this: you’re in Tesco, picking up your oat milk, and suddenly you feel Uncle Bob from the spirit world tapping on your shoulder, eager to connect with the stranger in aisle three. Should you approach them? Nope.

Why? Because:

• That person didn’t ask for a reading.

• They might not be open to or ready for it.

• You could unintentionally cause distress.

Mediumship isn’t about proving a point. It’s about service and consent. Always.

2. When You’re Emotionally Involved

If you’re too emotionally connected to the sitter or the spirit, your objectivity can go out the window. Grief, love, or personal bias can cloud the clarity of the message. In these cases, it’s better to refer them to another trusted medium.

3. During Vulnerable Moments

If someone is in a fragile emotional state (think: fresh grief, trauma, or intense life crisis), timing is everything. Even well-intentioned messages can land poorly if the person isn’t emotionally ready to receive them.

• Tip: If in doubt, ask, “Would you like me to share something with you?” If they decline, respect that boundary.

4. When the Message Feels Off

Not every impression, feeling, or message is meant to be shared. If something feels:

• Vague or unclear

• Potentially harmful or fear-inducing

• Heavy with personal bias

…take a step back. Spirit messages should uplift, heal, or provide clarity—not create confusion or fear.

5. When It's More About You Than Them

Let’s be honest: sometimes mediums get excited about the “wow” factor of a message. But if your motivation leans more towards showing off your skills than genuinely serving the sitter, it’s time to pause. Mediumship isn’t a performance; it’s a sacred exchange.

The Importance of Ethical Mediumship:

• Consent is Key: Always ensure the person is open to receiving a message.

• Consider the Impact: Think beyond the moment. How will this message affect them emotionally, mentally, and spiritually?

• Stay Humble: Remember, you’re the messenger, not the hero of the story.

What to Do Instead:

• Hold Space: Sometimes, just being present for someone is enough.

• Offer, Don’t Insist: “I feel like I have a message. Would you like me to share it?”

• Respect Boundaries: A “no” is a complete sentence.

Final Thoughts:

Mediumship is powerful, sacred, and transformative—but it’s not about us. It’s about service, respect, and ethical responsibility. The true mark of a good medium isn’t just the evidence they bring through; it’s knowing when to speak and when to stay silent.