For my first post, I want to start by telling you that YOU HAVE A GIFT. Honestly! You do. We all do!

How I found my own connection

When I first joined the development circle I learn at, I thought it would be a good way to find out more about mediumship, something that has always interested me. Maybe someone there would be able to give me a message from my grandfather or another relative on the other side, or at the very least it would be a chance to meditate and give my poor, over-worked brain a rest.

I soon found that giving yourself the space and time to listen, and actually finding the ability to push your doubts and lack of confidence to one side, meant that I COULD connect with my guides and receive information from them.

On a day to day basis your guides can help improve your life dramatically. Knowing that there are helpers there for you whenever you need them, sending you love without judgement, is so comforting and has given me so much more faith in my decisions.

Start by listening to yourself

So here's the basis of how it works. Listen to yourself. When you need help making a decision or are unsure which path to take, find a quiet space and ask your guides to come and help you. Whilst this can all be in your head (and not spoken aloud unless you so wish), it does help if you formulate a clear and concise request.

For example, when I first started my thoughts would be along the lines of this: "Dear Guides, please come and work with me. If you can. If you're there. Are you there? I hope you're there! Anyway, if you're there and you feel like it, please can you help me. I don't know what to do about my work. I don't know if I should carry on? Should I work harder and try and put more energy into it? Or am I wasting my time? Am I wasting my time? Or should I carry on? The thing is, I'm really tired and I don't think it's making me happy blah blah blah......"

Now my requests for help are far clearer: "Dear Guides, please can you show me the correct path I need to take for my work?"

Manage your expectations

Now the next bit is all about expectations. Don't expect a clear effigy to appear before you, glowing with a golden mystical light, to take your hand and sit and talk you through the next 5 year plan for your situation. Rather, have faith and trust that your request will be answered. Spend the next few days listening to yourself.

Sometimes it can take time for the answer to come. Don't push it, and know that when the time is right all will become clear. There have been times for me when I have thought all was lost and I didn't have a clue, but a week later something changed and I realised that it was what I needed to happen to enable me to make a clear decision!

How your guides actually get through

Your guides are most likely to contact you via your own instincts, thoughts and feelings. Allow yourself the space to listen to YOU. If it doesn't feel right, it's not right. Keep your mind open and your eyes open, and let them help you on your way.

Easier said than done at the beginning, I know. But keep up the work and it becomes easier and clearer every day.

Good Luck!

Hannah x

PS Always say please and thank you. It's good manners you know! But gratitude is the key to all. Being thankful raises our vibration, which makes you attract more good stuff!!

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I really have a gift?

Yes. Every one of us has the ability to connect with Spirit. It doesn't take a special family history or a lightning bolt moment, just space, patience and a willingness to push your doubts to one side.

How do I ask my spirit guides for help?

Find a quiet space and make a clear, simple request, in your head or out loud. A vague, rambling request is fine to start with (mine certainly was), but you'll find it gets easier once you know what you actually want to ask.

How will my guides answer me?

Most often through your own instincts, thoughts and feelings rather than anything dramatic. Don't expect a glowing figure. Spend the next few days listening to yourself, and trust that the answer will arrive when the time is right.

What if I don't get an answer straight away?

That's normal. Sometimes it takes days, sometimes longer. Don't push it. Often something shifts a week later that makes everything clearer.

Key Takeaways

• You have a gift, and so does everyone else.

• Make a clear, simple request to your guides rather than a rambling one.

• Don't expect anything dramatic. Guides mostly work through your own instincts, thoughts and feelings.

• Answers take time, so don't push.

• If it doesn't feel right, it's not right.

• Gratitude helps, so say please and thank you.

About Hannah

Hannah Macintyre is an evidential medium, author and spiritual teacher who hosts the Mediumship Matters podcast. Her book, You Are a Medium (You Just Don't Know It Yet), explores how mediumship really works from an evidential perspective. She teaches with curiosity and honesty rather than rigid rules or false certainty.

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